This Week in the World
Holiday Goals

Over twenty years ago, when my son and I drove to my parents for the holidays, I noticed I was nervous. When I asked myself why, I realized I was going with an unconscious goal of winning approval. Then and there I redefined my goals and my definition of what a successful holiday would be. I decided I was going to give, and if my presence contributed to their enjoyment, I would consider it a success. It turned out to be our best holiday I ever.

When you stop trying to get things from people that they can’t give you, you become more open to who they are and what they can. Some people don’t get your funniest jokes. Some people can’t meet you in your most tender emotional moments. Some people don’t appreciate your amazing culinary creations. That doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy who they are.

Sure, you may have to speak up about some things, like getting help with the dishes, turning the TV off during dinner or not wanting a third helping of your grandmothers pecan pie even though it’s delicious. You may have to call your sister on her snark or let your mother know that leaving early doesn’t mean you don’t love her.

If you haven’t taken my communication survey, consider taking it now, before you celebrate the holidays with someone who sees the world through a different lens than yours. (The complete survey is available in my book PowerPhrases!) Set your own personal holiday goal, and no matter what you do, have a fabulous Thanksgiving weekend.

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