From "You v. Me" to We
"How to Talk to Your
Communication Opposite" Teleseminar
August 2nd and 8th
Do some of your coworkers ever seem like aliens, oddballs and even freaks of nature? Do you leave some conversations shaking your head in disbelief and wonderment? Is there a "You v. Me" dynamic that keeps you from even imagining working together as a “We”?
If so, my next communication telephone seminar is for you. Here’s what you’ll get:
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See your coworkers in a new light that puts their words in perspective
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Understand how your own communication style affects your success - and what to do about it
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Know how to adapt your communication style to others’ to get results - immediately
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Learn to select your words so the You v. Me becomes a We that works to get you what you want.
"You v. Me" is dead. It's all about "We" now. This popular teleseminar will not only be fun to attend. It will give you the skills you need to bridge the gap between you and your communication opposites. If someone's communication style is so different you sometimes can’t get past “hello” without confusing or alienating each other, join us. Learn how to talk to your communication opposite from the author of PowerPhrases!.
Learn more about this teleseminar here
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If you haven't taken the style quiz, it's free and it's here.
Teleseminar FAQs are here.
That's Not Entertainment
Have you ever gotten caught up in gossip or some other kind of negative communication? It’s easy to lose sight of your communication values when “everyone is doing it.”
When someone breaks the negative pattern and points out the pettiness, it can be an abrupt wake-up call.
Celebrity gossip is in fashion these days, and Katie Couric provided a wake-up call to those who indulge. Speaking of Lindsay Lohan, Couric said,
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Why do so many relish her woes? Does it somehow make us all feel superior? What about compassion and the fervent hope she'll get the treatment she needs? This young woman's life is on the line. And that's not entertainment.
Indeed, gossip, whether it targets celebrities, coworkers or family members, is not entertainment. What a well stated reminder. Couric reminds us to talk the high road. It's not just a message for news anchors. It applies around the water cooler as well.
My next teleseminar will teach you how to communicate with people whose styles differ so much from yours, you wonder if they’re really speaking English.
Is there anything else I can do for you now?
It’s been a tough week. I broke my ankle five weeks ago, and as a result of my uneven gait and lack of exercise, my back went out last week. I was like a bug trapped on its back and can’t roll over. I was very dependent on my husband’s help. It was music to my ears that, after an incredible amount of service, he would come in and ask,
Is there anything else I can do for you now?
When you wonder if you’re asking too much, an invitation to ask for more is a gift beyond measure.
Think of the people in your life who might need support and would welcome an offer from you.
Check out my Communication Style Teleseminar.
Well, have you chosen the trim color yet?
Permit delays threw Peter’s renovation project off schedule and caused it to overlap with other projects on the contractor’s schedule. Peter understood that, but he didn’t understand when the contractor addressed delays with irrelevant excuses. When Peter asked when the contractor would get to the trim, the contractor said,
- Well, have you chosen the trim color yet?
This question implied that the contractor was waiting on action
from Peter to move forward. In fact,
1) Peter chose the trim color when he approved the original specs,
and
2) If the contractor had been waiting for Peter's decision, he could
have
asked for it.
Peter would have accepted a straight answer about how the permit delays threw the project off schedule, but Peter lost trust and resented what sounded like an inappropriate attempt to blame the customer.
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Incompetence
My assistant has been on vacation and we discovered many errors in her work. I expect her to be defensive about it if I bring it up. How can I discuss it with her?
Meryl Responds
Address it from the perspective of wanting to help her be successful. Say,
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While you were gone, we discovered a series of errors that lead me to believe that you are need more support than we’ve been giving you. Let’s meet so I can tell you what we found, get to the source of the problems and work out an improvement plan we can overcome these issues.
And do just that.
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