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TeleSeminar tomorrow: Are you saying what you really mean?
"Oh, you can't mean that."
Has anyone ever told you you couldn't possibly mean what you said? I heard it as a child, and I wondered if I knew what I meant or if I needed them to tell me. For too long, I made the wrong choice.
My How to Say What You Mean teleseminar will help you make the right choice and speak out. It will help you determine what you think, feel and want, and communicate with confidence.
It's a bonus to my Say What You Mean eCourse subscribers.
My three day emotional management policy
Do you ever have an emotional meltdown? I do. When I find myself feeling unusually negative and my inner reptile is alive and well, I go into damage control mode. Instead of my usual “Say what you mean and mean what you say without being mean when you say it” policy, I apply my three day policy. If I feel a strong emotional compulsion to make a radical change, and particularly to make a change that will burn a bridge, I wait three days. I promise myself that if I still want to make the change in three days, I will. In the meantime, I listen to my grievance and explore it for deeper meaning rather than acting in a way that could backfire.
My three day policy saves a lot of grief. I usually come out of my emotion ready to make some changes, but they are kinder and gentler changes. Consider what kind of emotional policy would serve you. I'll talk more about this in tomorrow's teleseminar.
What a week in politics
If the political landscape has you spinning, you're in good company. Well, lots of company anyway. I invite you to read my takes on events at: www.uniteandconcur.com
This Week in the World comment
“Being perfectly honest is like any other kind of perfection – you might not ever quite achieve it, but you try”
~ Meryl Runion
PowerPhrase of the Week
These are tears of anger
Mary cries when she's angry, and that made her reluctant to communicate her anger. That policy resulted in a lot of pent-up frustration that tied her up in knots. So she armed herself with PowerPhrases and owned her emotion as she kept the focus on the issues. Here's one of her favorites.
• These are tears of anger. They do not inhibit my ability to focus on the facts.
Mary has found that the tears that she once thought to be tears of weakness have become a source of power.
Learn more emotional PowerPhrases at Wednesday's Teleseminar.
Poison Phrase of the Week
Don't go getting all emotional on me
Bullies are really good at taunting their "victims" and then ridiculing them for objecting. It can be a very effective technique when someone objects to mistreatment, only to be told,
- Don't go getting all emotional on me
Excuse me? When someone pokes a finger in your eye, anger is an appropriate response. And if you haven't learned to do anger, your communication is likely to be mixed with some fear and self-doubt. This week's poison phrase is so toxic and has been the cause of many of us learning not to say what we mean. We've learned that communicating emotion is the same as "getting all emotional" - and is somehow bad.
Learn how to speak from emotion without losing your cool in tomorrow's Say What You Mean eCourse bonus telephone seminar.
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Reader Success Story
I broke the habit
I used to cry over the slightest things. But after you showed me the acupressure points to stop tears at a seminar, when I felt the tears come on, I pressed the point and was able to regain my composure.
I discovered that crying was a habit - and I don't have the habit anymore.
Learn more emotional management techniques at my How to Say What You Mean bonus teleseminar tomorrow.
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SpeakStrong Definition
To express yourself both powerfully &
effectively;
to say what you mean,
mean what you say,
without being mean
when you say it.