April 19, 2006I’m okay, you’re biased.
An article in the Sunday NY Times concluded that decision-makers are more biased than they realize, but they are less biased than the rest of us suspect.
I suspect that is sometimes true.
I also suspect that there are some decision-makers that are far more biased than some of the rest of us could ever imagine.
If you have a strong sense of fairness, it can be difficult to imagine there are those who care little for fairness. And there are.
If you look out for number one, it can be difficult to imagine not everyone operates that way. They don’t.
I remember years ago when I realized I was fighting to find resolution and my boyfriend was fighting to win. He twisted information to build his point. I (usually) tried to decipher information to figure out how we could make things work for us both. It took me a long time to see the difference, because I never imagined that someone I loved was in it for himself rather than being in it for us. It was a difficult reality to accept, but accepting it helped me realize I needed to change my style or leave. I chose to leave.
Do not let your own standards of behavior and motivation for speaking obscure the standards and motivations of others. There are some people who look out for you when they talk to you more than you would, and there are some people who look out for themselves when they talk to you more than you would. When you SpeakStrong, know where the person you are talking to is coming from.
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