July 26, 2006Things Are Like This Now…Because…

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In our ‘rat race’ lives we often operate on the past (5 years ago, 5 days ago, 5 mins ago) or we operate on the future (what will happen 5 years from now, 5 days from now and 5 minutes from now). I believe strongly that living in the moment of events helps me stay focused and true to my feelings and beliefs. It keeps me from running away.

I heard the phrase Kacper, (Owner of Iamnow.com) say: “Things are like this now….”

In the last year at work we’ve had 3 different VP level positions filled by new staff. With that said, things have been changing often and quickly. My position as a permanent/full-time consultant is to be the liaison in these changes. In the middle of meetings I have staff questioning everything possible about the change, i.e. ‘We used to….” “If we do that, what will happen to…” all valid questions that can be addressed appropriately, but questions that can lead you to become unfocused on the duty that is the pressing issue…

So in these situations I’ve said, “Things are like this now…(and I pause) in order to….” It may seem awkward, at first, to the receivers of this phrase, since they may be mentally in the past for future, but I’ve often seen them pause and then take note and actually listen to what I have to say.

BTW.. this works well with my two boys (10 y/o and 3 y/o). I avoid giving promises that I can’t keep, i.e. tomorrow we will go swimming. But I will often let them know what I plan for the day at hand. In cases where things change I call them over and say, “Things are like this now,” and I explain. It seems they are less likely to be upset with me pinning me down on what I ‘promised earlier’ and they actually listen.

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  1. Interesting approach…we are in the midst of a divestiture. This could be a handy way to communicate the changing nature this type of business activity.

    Comment by Mike C — July 27, 2006 @ 8:31 pm

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