By: Michele Bartlett

Michele Bartlett — Wed, 04 Oct 2006 19:02:20 +0000

I learned too late that a former colleague, who had asked me (as an earth-mother type) to give her neck rubs when she was in pain, really hated being hugged — which I did frequently with her and everyone else in the office. She never said, until the day that I was fired, that she hated it — even from her own mother. I wish she would have spoken up; I have a feeling that the rest of the things I did that irritated her were only exacerbated by the invasion of her boundaries. Not having learned my lesson, I turned my hugs on my nephew’s fiancee, who confided to my sister that she didn’t enjoy hugs. My sister learned from hard experience with her own “don’t hug me” sons that not everyone does . . . I figured my former colleague’s unease was an abberation, but maybe I’m the one who needs to cool the jets. I’ll certainly be more careful in the future.

By: Scott White

Scott White — Wed, 04 Oct 2006 00:29:49 +0000

I say invade, I hug is an amazing thing to give and recieve, you may want to ask if it’s ok befor you go around hugging eveyone, but the power of humen touch is amazing.. .so go for it give someone a hug, hell even if you just give someone a hug it still will most likley get them to feel good and positive, but I would reccomend asking so you don’t neccessary invade a bubble that doesn’t want to be popped

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By: Michele Bartlett

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