August 23, 2006I Understand You Don’t Agree with My Objections
Crystal was upset because she couldn’t get her coworker to understand why she wasn’t willing to cover up his late arrivals with the boss. She felt better when her coach (me) said,
- He doesn’t need to understand. He just needs to know what you are and aren’t willing to do.
Crystal had been distressed because she thought she needed to convince him he was asking her to do something unethical. She let that go and stopped trying to control what her coworker thought and simply affirmed her unwillingness. She told him,
- I understand you don’t agree with my objections. However, I’m not comfortable doing this and would appreciate your not pushing me on the matter.
Crystal was able to speak authoritatively because she realized his opinion held no authority over her decisions.
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