August 30, 2006Speaking Strong with Grandpa
I must tell you that I was quite surprised that I opened my mouth and spoke strong to my Grandmother’s husband this weekend. I have a 3 1/2 year old daughter who, like any other 3 years old, loves candy. My Grandmother and her husband do not see my daughter and me as often as they would like. They visited us last weekend and shortly after they arrived my Grandmother’s husband was telling my daughter to put her hand down his pocket to retrieve a piece of candy. I immediately got the willies, but did nothing about it at that time. I was very upset at myself for saying nothing. The next day I figured the same incident would occur and I was ready this time. I talked to my daughter about it before hand and told her that she should not go into his pocket if he asks again. When he did it this time, my daughter looked up at me to make sure it was ok, then I shook my head “NO” which he saw. He asked me why I shook my head no to my daughter and I told him,
- That is inappropriate, I would rather you hand her the candy.
We talked more about it later because he didn’t understand why I had a problem, he meant no harm. I told him the next person that tells my daughter to put her hand down his pants pocket may not have pockets. Then he understood. I was really protecting my daughter from the chance something similar may happen when I am not around. I felt so good about standing up for what I knew was the right thing.
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Congratulations for speaking up and being assertive in an awkward situation! I may be overreacting, but I got the willies because you had to explain to a grown man why a young girl shouldn’t be asked to put her hand in his pants pocket. I might keep a closer eye on other things he may “not understand” about how to behave around young children.
I apologize in advance if I have overreacted. I don’t want to create “monsters” where there are none, but here I sit with my willies.
Comment by Cindy Mueller — August 30, 2006 @ 4:36 pm
I think you were so correct in what you did.That is a very good lesson to teach your child early on in life.
Comment by Frances king — December 6, 2007 @ 9:25 am