Comments on: The Invitation of a Fake Smile http://www.speakstrong.com/newsletter/2007/03/22/the-invitation-of-a-fake-smile/ By Meryl Runion and SpeakStrong, Inc. Thu, 20 Nov 2008 13:20:27 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.3 By: merylrunion http://www.speakstrong.com/newsletter/2007/03/22/the-invitation-of-a-fake-smile/#comment-1097 merylrunion Thu, 29 Mar 2007 17:39:49 +0000 http://www.speakstrong.com/newsletter/2007/03/22/the-invitation-of-a-fake-smile/#comment-1097 Ah, yes, Adina. There is a place for fake smiles. I sometimes work with people who use smiles to mask issues that needs to be addressed and others who don't know how to not smile when talking about serious matters. But I agree - there's a place for faking it. I also suspect that on some level, we all really know when it's fake and when it's not. (In that case we might be relieved to be able to pretend things are okay when we sense they are not.) Ah, yes, Adina. There is a place for fake smiles. I sometimes work with people who use smiles to mask issues that needs to be addressed and others who don’t know how to not smile when talking about serious matters. But I agree - there’s a place for faking it.

I also suspect that on some level, we all really know when it’s fake and when it’s not. (In that case we might be relieved to be able to pretend things are okay when we sense they are not.)

]]> By: Adina http://www.speakstrong.com/newsletter/2007/03/22/the-invitation-of-a-fake-smile/#comment-1076 Adina Thu, 22 Mar 2007 19:26:15 +0000 http://www.speakstrong.com/newsletter/2007/03/22/the-invitation-of-a-fake-smile/#comment-1076 Personally if I'm having a bad day or don't feel smiley and I pass someone I think it is RIGHT to smile anyway. The person I'm smiling at is not at fault for whatever I'm unhappy at. Most of the time at work, in town, etc...I dont know the person well. WHY would I want to share my bad feelings with them? Venting and complaining is something I do with those I'm close to...my husband, close friends. I don't want to spread my bad mood to others by avoiding eye contact or not smiling. Besides even if my smile is not indicative of MY immediate good feelings or happiness, I do MEAN to give a smile of friendliness. Why not spread sunshine anyway and SMILE. Perhaps we need to try harder to be genuine and consider that even though you may not FEEL like smiling, the person you're passing may be blessed by a smile and why not give a smile away? Personally if I’m having a bad day or don’t feel smiley and I pass someone I think it is RIGHT to smile anyway. The person I’m smiling at is not at fault for whatever I’m unhappy at. Most of the time at work, in town, etc…I dont know the person well. WHY would I want to share my bad feelings with them? Venting and complaining is something I do with those I’m close to…my husband, close friends. I don’t want to spread my bad mood to others by avoiding eye contact or not smiling. Besides even if my smile is not indicative of MY immediate good feelings or happiness, I do MEAN to give a smile of friendliness. Why not spread sunshine anyway and SMILE. Perhaps we need to try harder to be genuine and consider that even though you may not FEEL like smiling, the person you’re passing may be blessed by a smile and why not give a smile away?

]]> By: Regina http://www.speakstrong.com/newsletter/2007/03/22/the-invitation-of-a-fake-smile/#comment-1073 Regina Thu, 22 Mar 2007 19:00:05 +0000 http://www.speakstrong.com/newsletter/2007/03/22/the-invitation-of-a-fake-smile/#comment-1073 The trick is in the eyes. If you cover the smile and look into the eyes and compare, it becomes clear which is fake, content and real. The trick is in the eyes. If you cover the smile and look into the eyes and compare, it becomes clear which is fake, content and real.

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