Comments on: Set-up to Fail http://www.speakstrong.com/newsletter/2007/04/05/set-up-to-fail/ By Meryl Runion and SpeakStrong, Inc. Thu, 20 Nov 2008 14:29:29 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.3 By: merylrunion http://www.speakstrong.com/newsletter/2007/04/05/set-up-to-fail/#comment-1175 merylrunion Thu, 26 Apr 2007 16:52:37 +0000 http://www.speakstrong.com/newsletter/2007/04/05/set-up-to-fail/#comment-1175 This sounds totally unreasonable to me, but I don't know the laws enough to advise you. I invite my readers to post. If they don't, Ill put it in next week's newsletter. This sounds totally unreasonable to me, but I don’t know the laws enough to advise you. I invite my readers to post. If they don’t, Ill put it in next week’s newsletter.

]]> By: Mary http://www.speakstrong.com/newsletter/2007/04/05/set-up-to-fail/#comment-1173 Mary Wed, 25 Apr 2007 00:14:38 +0000 http://www.speakstrong.com/newsletter/2007/04/05/set-up-to-fail/#comment-1173 I have been going thru severe harrassment and went to HR and they settled and now they are going back on their agreements and won't allow me go to the bathroom, they said it is a undue hardship and it's a removal of essential part of my job to use the bathroom during the for a few minutes. Isn't there any laws that I can show them, especially if this is the Government. Everyone else is allowed to use the bathroom. I know my answer is to leave but what do I due in the meantime. I have been going thru severe harrassment and went to HR and they settled and now they are going back on their agreements and won’t allow me go to the bathroom, they said it is a undue hardship and it’s a removal of essential part of my job to use the bathroom during the for a few minutes. Isn’t there any laws that I can show them, especially if this is the Government. Everyone else is allowed to use the bathroom. I know my answer is to leave but what do I due in the meantime.

]]> By: Grace http://www.speakstrong.com/newsletter/2007/04/05/set-up-to-fail/#comment-1153 Grace Mon, 16 Apr 2007 14:04:53 +0000 http://www.speakstrong.com/newsletter/2007/04/05/set-up-to-fail/#comment-1153 In preparation for your career move, begin the process of your job search discreetly and aggressively. Also, be sure to network with several upstanding professionals so that you can provide references. I too have had the unfortunate opportunity to work with this type of 'executive'. It helped that I had advocates in the organization and in the industry that provided encouragement and attested to my abilities. Do not allow his inability to provide appropriate leadership affect your sanity. You now know what to expect and you have recommended tools to assist with the daily barrage of poor choices from your manager. The unemployment rate is at an all time low and you can find work with sane and stable employers everywhere. You can also find opportunities working for companies that foster professional growth and ethical practices including teamwork. This is a learning experience that can only teach you to be prepared for the next opportunity for professional growth. In preparation for your career move, begin the process of your job search discreetly and aggressively. Also, be sure to network with several upstanding professionals so that you can provide references. I too have had the unfortunate opportunity to work with this type of ‘executive’. It helped that I had advocates in the organization and in the industry that provided encouragement and attested to my abilities. Do not allow his inability to provide appropriate leadership affect your sanity. You now know what to expect and you have recommended tools to assist with the daily barrage of poor choices from your manager. The unemployment rate is at an all time low and you can find work with sane and stable employers everywhere. You can also find opportunities working for companies that foster professional growth and ethical practices including teamwork. This is a learning experience that can only teach you to be prepared for the next opportunity for professional growth.

]]> By: Rachel http://www.speakstrong.com/newsletter/2007/04/05/set-up-to-fail/#comment-1122 Rachel Tue, 10 Apr 2007 04:00:53 +0000 http://www.speakstrong.com/newsletter/2007/04/05/set-up-to-fail/#comment-1122 I agree with all the ladies above and would like to add - it may be that his method of motivation is to put you down - I once had an employer who motivated his staff by telling them, every six months, he was going to fire them as they weren't working hard enough - he even told me that was his method regardless of whether the staff member was working well. At 18 months I surprised him by agreeing with him and handing in a resignation. You can't keep working for him as he is working against you, cut your loses and move on, the stress isn't worth it, why waste each day trying to please someone who doesn't want to be pleased. I agree with all the ladies above and would like to add - it may be that his method of motivation is to put you down - I once had an employer who motivated his staff by telling them, every six months, he was going to fire them as they weren’t working hard enough - he even told me that was his method regardless of whether the staff member was working well. At 18 months I surprised him by agreeing with him and handing in a resignation.
You can’t keep working for him as he is working against you, cut your loses and move on, the stress isn’t worth it, why waste each day trying to please someone who doesn’t want to be pleased.

]]> By: Debra Peterson http://www.speakstrong.com/newsletter/2007/04/05/set-up-to-fail/#comment-1117 Debra Peterson Fri, 06 Apr 2007 14:54:27 +0000 http://www.speakstrong.com/newsletter/2007/04/05/set-up-to-fail/#comment-1117 I agree with Kathleen and would just like to add that the diary she is talking about will need specific's. Date of converstation and time, anyone present that may have heard it or made comments about it, any written instructions. If he e-mails you print them off as proof of his expectations and then your documents to prove you followed through. If he does not e-mail you then use it after a conversation to confirm his expectations. "Per our conversation today I have come up with 20 flight plans for you to review. Please let me know if more are desired" What was said by both parties. If he is trying to force you out and ends up terminating you this information will be vital in making your case to unemployment and HR. I agree with Kathleen and would just like to add that the diary she is talking about will need specific’s. Date of converstation and time, anyone present that may have heard it or made comments about it, any written instructions. If he e-mails you print them off as proof of his expectations and then your documents to prove you followed through. If he does not e-mail you then use it after a conversation to confirm his expectations. “Per our conversation today I have come up with 20 flight plans for you to review. Please let me know if more are desired” What was said by both parties. If he is trying to force you out and ends up terminating you this information will be vital in making your case to unemployment and HR.

]]> By: Kathleen http://www.speakstrong.com/newsletter/2007/04/05/set-up-to-fail/#comment-1116 Kathleen Fri, 06 Apr 2007 13:57:31 +0000 http://www.speakstrong.com/newsletter/2007/04/05/set-up-to-fail/#comment-1116 Agreed. Get out. There could be a dozen "whys", none of which would have anything to do with you or your performance. But for the benefit of those who may follow you, I suggest you leave behind a "diary" of sorts for your HR dept, or whoever is in charge of keeping up with employees' performances at this company. Give them as precise & as exact a set of examples as you can, so that when & if the same type of issues arise, they will have precedence established. A boss who behaves that way won't be a one time phenomenon. It will be a way of life. It will happen again. Agreed. Get out. There could be a dozen “whys”, none of which would have anything to do with you or your performance. But for the benefit of those who may follow you, I suggest you leave behind a “diary” of sorts for your HR dept, or whoever is in charge of keeping up with employees’ performances at this company. Give them as precise & as exact a set of examples as you can, so that when & if the same type of issues arise, they will have precedence established. A boss who behaves that way won’t be a one time phenomenon. It will be a way of life. It will happen again.

]]> By: Nik Nikkel http://www.speakstrong.com/newsletter/2007/04/05/set-up-to-fail/#comment-1113 Nik Nikkel Thu, 05 Apr 2007 21:36:51 +0000 http://www.speakstrong.com/newsletter/2007/04/05/set-up-to-fail/#comment-1113 Sounds to me like he is setting up a "can't get good help" defense for his own performance. Meryl's advice is right on target. Get a job with a decent company and a decent boss. They exists and you will be much, much happier. Nik Nikkel Sounds to me like he is setting up a “can’t get good help” defense for his own performance.
Meryl’s advice is right on target. Get a job with a decent company and a decent boss. They exists and you will be much, much happier.

Nik Nikkel

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