May 9, 2007Don’t Give Her the Option of Not Doing the Chemo. I Want Her to Make Up Her Own Mind.

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Jill’s grandmother wasn’t sure the benefits of chemotherapy justified the cost, but Jill’s brother insisted it was. Jill told her grandmother she would research the issue and give her the information. Her brother tried to get Jill to back off by saying,

- Don’t give her the option of not doing the chemo. I want her to make up her own mind.

I had a situation like this once, and found it interesting that the speaker thought that if I didn’t share my opinion, it would allow the third party more freedom of choice.

Jill’s brother also told her,

- You’re always argumentative.

Jill’s brother’s words were an attempt to discredit her opinion by labeling it as argumentative rather than a legitimate concern.

As so often happens, he later apologized and confessed that he was actually angry with her about something else.

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