Comments on: Poison Phrase – Kids can be so loud and obnoxious http://www.speakstrong.com/newsletter/2007/09/04/poison-phrase-kids-can-be-so-loud-and-obnoxious/ By Meryl Runion and SpeakStrong, Inc. Sun, 20 Nov 2011 02:34:58 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3 By: merylrunion http://www.speakstrong.com/newsletter/2007/09/04/poison-phrase-kids-can-be-so-loud-and-obnoxious/comment-page-1/#comment-1888 merylrunion Tue, 18 Sep 2007 01:00:12 +0000 http://www.speakstrong.com/newsletter/2007/09/04/poison-phrase-kids-can-be-so-loud-and-obnoxious/#comment-1888 I think you nailed it again, Kathleen! Thanks! I think you nailed it again, Kathleen! Thanks!

]]> By: Kathleen http://www.speakstrong.com/newsletter/2007/09/04/poison-phrase-kids-can-be-so-loud-and-obnoxious/comment-page-1/#comment-1807 Kathleen Sat, 15 Sep 2007 14:29:24 +0000 http://www.speakstrong.com/newsletter/2007/09/04/poison-phrase-kids-can-be-so-loud-and-obnoxious/#comment-1807 The picture I got of Patty as I was reading the story, was of a person who feels powerless in her own life, who is not in touch with her own reality, and who as a result is somewhat self absorbed. If these friends are valued, she would not want to hurt them by making them feel bad about having kids, or about "subjecting" Patty to their presence. If Patty is so uncomfortable in the presence of children, I believe there are a few things she needs to do. One is to work on widening her circle of friends to include people who do not have children, or who are willing and able to plan time with Patty without their children around. If she really really feels strongly, she might need to consider not accepting invitations to events at which she knows there will be children. Children are not crazy about being in the presence of their parent's disapproving friends either. And with those friends she really values, she needs to be honest and explain her discomfort and ask for forbearance and help in maintaining the friendship while understanding her discomfort. AND she probably needs some help in figuring out why she is uncomfortable around children. Wouldn't it be nice to be able to function in the real world under all it's manifestations? No one HAS to willingly put themselves into situations that make them uncomfortable, but in the big picture, isn't that how we find out who we are and how we find out where the wounds are that need healing within ourselves? The picture I got of Patty as I was reading the story, was of a person who feels powerless in her own life, who is not in touch with her own reality, and who as a result is somewhat self absorbed. If these friends are valued, she would not want to hurt them by making them feel bad about having kids, or about “subjecting” Patty to their presence. If Patty is so uncomfortable in the presence of children, I believe there are a few things she needs to do.

One is to work on widening her circle of friends to include people who do not have children, or who are willing and able to plan time with Patty without their children around. If she really really feels strongly, she might need to consider not accepting invitations to events at which she knows there will be children. Children are not crazy about being in the presence of their parent’s disapproving friends either.

And with those friends she really values, she needs to be honest and explain her discomfort and ask for forbearance and help in maintaining the friendship while understanding her discomfort.

AND she probably needs some help in figuring out why she is uncomfortable around children. Wouldn’t it be nice to be able to function in the real world under all it’s manifestations? No one HAS to willingly put themselves into situations that make them uncomfortable, but in the big picture, isn’t that how we find out who we are and how we find out where the wounds are that need healing within ourselves?

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