If you’re using bluntness because the situation calls for it, it’s absolutely appropriate.

Direct communications say what you mean. They are factual, clear, complete, candid and an essential part of relationships. They are problem-focused and may address issues that are important but uncomfortable.

Blunt communications go beyond direct and become mean. They may include insults, barbs, humiliations, innuendos, and other Ad hominem attacks on the person. They cross the line into violence as they reveal anger or even distain as they attack the person rather than address the problem.

But we react and decide based on both passion and reason. Blunt may have a role after direct has run its course. If conscientious but dispassionate direct communications have failed to communicate the true sense of importance and urgency, the emotional impact of blunt communications may be warranted to effect urgent change.

If you saw a child running into the street toward oncoming traffic your communication has to be direct and urgent. Displaying an edge of anger or fear in your communication may be effective in getting the child’s attention and preventing an accident.