December 19, 2007PowerPhrase of the Week: What would you guess we agree about on this topic?
After years of hostile political conversations, Kelly decided she wanted to change the dynamic between herself and her friend Tom, so they could stop arguing and start communicating.
Tom asked Kelly what she thought about illegal immigration. She asked him,
- What would you guess we agree about on the topic?
That question started the conversation based on agreement. They discovered that they had far more in common than they knew, they were able to share information with each other, and they discussed differences without hostility.
Tom said, “I like agreeing better.”
Use the agreement approach to set the tone for other topics besides politics.
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