July 8, 2008Ask Meryl ~ Coworker from hell?

Filed under: Ask Meryl by merylrunion |

Meryl,
My division director asked us all to anonymously answer the following questions:
1. Describe the best team player you ever worked with.
2. Describe the co-worker from hell.
I appreciate #1 because I can state something positive. It’s #2 that I have a problem with. I choose not to answer because there is belittling & backbiting in our unit. I believe that #2 will add to the situation & allow staff to imagine another employee & make fun of them in print even though there will not be a name mentioned.

I would like to turn my paper in with such a response that makes management consider what they are encouraging.

Meryl Responds,

I applaud you for questioning the process. I agree it’s a destructive, black and white question. If it was asking about a behavior, I’d be okay with it, but it invites you to stereotype and classify the employee as if they have no redeeming qualities.

If you’re willing to be playful and don’t think it would offend anyone, you could say,

  • Instead of an employee, I’d like to nominate a question from hell – which is one that requires me to classify my colleague as being from hell.  I’m teasing, of course, and I do understand and respect the intent of the exercise. It is valuable to identify challenging behaviors. However, I am uncomfortable with responding to the question as posed.

If that sounds too testy, tone it down a tad. Say,

  • I am uncomfortable with responding to the question as posed.  I face challenges with a number of co-worker behaviors, but I can’t say I have any co-workers from hell.
Share
Add your comments | Email This Post Email This Post

Related posts which may interest you

    • An Employee Who Lies
    • Ask Meryl ~ I don’t know how to tell them I don’t know
    • Commanding Respect
    • Indirect Negativity
    • Success Story: I will no longer tolerate this

No Comments »

RSS feed for comments on this post. | TrackBack URI
You can also bookmark this on del.icio.us or check the cosmos

Leave a comment




XHTML ( You can use these tags): <a href="" title=""> <abbr title=""> <acronym title=""> <b> <blockquote cite=""> <cite> <code> <del datetime=""> <em> <i> <q cite=""> <strike> <strong> .

« Reader Discussion ~ when victims blame themselves    Poison Phrase ~ Loretta resigned »

Newsletter Sign Up

Name
Email
Follow Meryl on Twitter image link

RSS Feed

Keep current with SpeakStrong Posts using Google RSS Reader



Categories

  • Admin Assistants
  • Announcements and events
  • Ashley
  • Ask Meryl
  • B2B associate courtships
  • Book Reviews
  • Character-based Communication
  • Discussion Topic
  • Dynamic dignity/corporate ignominy
  • Expectation Management
  • How to restore sanity
  • Hubby series
  • Kids
  • Kudo Corner
  • Leadership
  • New Dynamics
  • Newsletter
  • Nurses
  • Poison Phrase of the Week
  • Power Phrase Quick Tip
  • Quote
  • Reader comment
  • Reader Stories
  • Speak Strong, smart and sweet
  • Success Story
  • Success story in progress
  • The PowerPhrase of the Week
  • The SpeakStrong Method
  • This Week in the World
  • Tip of the week
  • Uncategorized
Powered by WordPress
Theme by Sreejith, Customized by MyBlogCoach
Copyright © 2012 A PowerPhrase a Week