Comments on: PowerPhrase ~ What is it like to die?

By: Beatrice

Beatrice — Mon, 04 Aug 2008 23:05:38 +0000

This reminds me of a sentiment I once saw which read: ‘A friend is someone who asks how you are then listens to your answer’ I once heard a telesales agent ask a customer how she was her response was ‘not too good my husband died yesterday’ he replied ‘thats brilliant,tell me, when is your insurance due for renewal?’ If you ask a question, you must be prepared to listen to the response whatever it may be. Empty questions diminish good intentions and fool no-one.

By: merylrunion

merylrunion — Sun, 03 Aug 2008 21:27:28 +0000

Lynne, I don’t know how much honesty the culture supports regarding abuse, but I do know what it’s like to be around people who ask and don’t really want to know. I also have learned that there are more people who do want to know than I imagined. If I offend someone in my attempt to discern, I consider that the price of the search for my “soul family.” And finding people you relate to is worth the risk of offending a few you don’t, in my opinion.

Thanks!

By: Lynne

Lynne — Tue, 29 Jul 2008 04:03:58 +0000

I can certainly see that it is very affirming to receive such a question from someone who really wants to know. But if someone asked me ‘What is it like to have been a victim of abuse?’ I would not only be very surprised (and pleased) but would also struggle to find an answer appropriate to the person asking the question. It’s not that I don’t want to talk about it – I do – but it’s very difficult to guage just how much someone actually wants to know. I’ve come to the conclusion that some things are best left to professional counsellors. What do you think?