September 9, 2008Poison Phrase ~ Don’t go getting all emotional on me
Bullies are really good at taunting their “victims” and then ridiculing them for objecting. It can be a very effective technique when someone objects to mistreatment, only to be told,
- Don’t go getting all emotional on me
Excuse me? When someone pokes a finger in your eye, anger is an appropriate response. And if you haven’t learned to do anger, your communication is likely to be mixed with some fear and self-doubt. This week’s poison phrase is so toxic and has been the cause of many of us learning not to say what we mean. We’ve learned that communicating emotion is the same as “getting all emotional” – and is somehow bad.
Learn how to speak from emotion without losing your cool in tomorrow’s Say What You Mean eCourse bonus telephone seminar. .
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I am disappointed that no suggestions were given on how to respond to this comment. In most of your newsletters, suggestions are made on how to respond to poison phrases. Why is this one different?
Thanks,
RE
Comment by Reba Eaton — September 10, 2008 @ 10:31 am
Why is it different? Well – I guess because I don’t have a really good suggestion.
But here’s a start. How about:
* The only reasonable response to a situation like this is (the emotion you’re experiencing.)
* My emotion is appropriate to the situation.
* Are you uncomfortable with my emotion?
* What kind of emotion do you think is appropriate for this kind of situation?
* Don’t go getting all rational on me.
What do you think?
Comment by merylrunion — September 30, 2008 @ 9:32 pm
I like the Don’t go getting all rational on me. That is a good comeback and in a personal relationship will probably bring a smile and perhaps bit of a laugh.
Comment by Robin C — October 1, 2008 @ 3:38 pm