December 18, 2008This Week in the World ~ Opportunity in relationship challenges
What do you do when relationships get uncomfortable? Many people shut down and disappear. Others shut down and hide behind a happy face. Some get aggressive to shut the other person down. I recommend you keep your heart open and tell a deeper level of truth.
Have you ever dreamt you were in public, not fully dressed? It’s usually an embarrassing discovery, symbolic of being unprepared. However, the last time I had that dream, no one seemed to notice, and everyone was comfortable including me. I saw it as a new level of comfort with being myself in the world. Like my friend who, when asked if I could write about an experience she had or if it would blow her cover, she replied that she didn’t have a cover to blow. What freedom.
Recently I dreamt that some friends tossed me some clothes and told me to put them on and start talking. I liked the clothes, but still had to decide if I wanted to wear them or not.
When people tell me they’ve hit some rocks in their relationship, I tell them their relationship is working. It’s gotten real. They’re touching each other on deep levels. This is the opportunity to cultivate true intimacy and/or genuine friendship. It’s the opportunity to question the clothes they wear in that particular relationship and decide how well they fit. If they keep their hearts open, they can discover wonderful new levels of relating.
Cut to the Core
One of my favorite chapters in my new SpeakStrong book is Cut to the Core. In order to say what you mean, you need to know what you mean. This chapter helps you uncover your deeper meanings.
It looks like SpeakStrong will be available for shipping Monday. The pre-order special lasts until I get my copies. Order now to save shipping. (US only.)
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