February 10, 2009Success Story ~ Manipulative communication

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I was reading in SpeakStrong about manipulative speaking – holy cow I used to deal with so much of that. I used to feel guilty pretty easily, People would say “you made me feel X” and I would automatically assume I had done something to “make” them feel that way. Now, if somebody says to me (which most people in my life don’t), “you made me feel x,” my response is, “Do you mean that what I said brought up X feeling in you?” I just clarify it because when I do that, most people are happy to re-configure their words. Those who aren’t – are probably people I might wish to keep at a distance.