February 10, 2009This Week in the World Space, stories, babies, bathwater, flow and the feminine

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My husband just told me about how he always schedules extra time for his clients so they can tell him their stories. If I wasn’t already in love with him, this would have put me over the edge.

He has two reasons – 1) People like to tell their stories. and 2) it gives him clues about how he can help them. Of course there are times when it’s important to focus clients, but skilled professionals understand the value of giving room for the deeper experience to emerge. That kind of listening is my husband’s key to success. Isn’t it what we all want? Someone who will listen to our stories and help us figure out what’s important to our wellbeing and what isn’t?

Sometimes you need to search the bathwater for babies before you throw it out. Our stories tell us where our strengths and our triggers are. My husband’s listening policy creates a balance between goals and process, masculine and feminine, linear and fluid.

He and I experienced another balance between those qualities today. We did my NIA workout together. As a martial artist, he marveled at how the Global Unity Workout immediately balances structured martial arts moves with fluid dance moves. (See why I’m keeping him?) You can get NIA DVDs here.

My new book Speak Strong is about that balance between strong and soft, focused and relaxed, masculine and feminine.

Two new SpeakStrong in Love posts

Speaking of stories, a friend told me he likes talking to me when his relationships hit a wall, because I see occasional turmoil as a natural part of the blending of hearts. In fact, I insist that when couples trigger each other, the relationship is working. Find out why in my new post on SpeakStrong in Love, Congratulations. It’s working.

I have another new post there: Keep the bulls out of your china shop ~ how to keep your heart from becoming calloused. It may appear to contradict my first post, but it isn’t.

Reader discussion results

Responders to last week’s discussion agree with me by an 8:1 ratio that emotional disclosure adds to the power of a message. They provided some insightful comments.