December 4, 2009PowerPhrase: Why are you pressuring me right now?
This is one of those “what I could have said” PowerPhrases. I didn’t think of it at the time because I wasn’t aware of the dynamic.
A friend and I were having a philosophical discussion. It was a friendly sharing of ideas… until one point where his tone became aggressive. He was challenging my questions as if they were ridiculous. I responded with clarity, but later realized the conversation would have been more fun for me if I had challenged his tone and brought it back to friendly interplay. A simple way to do that is to ask,
- Why are you pressuring me right now?
Or I could have said,
- I feel pressured right now. Is that intentional?
It wasn’t a wasted opportunity – it was a learning opportunity. Perhaps next time it happens – with him or someone else – I will become aware in time to speak up for my preferred style of conversation.
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