January 12, 2010Dumping and Preaching are not Speaking Strong
One of my friends posted on social media about how sometimes you need to stand for truth and slay dragons. Her tone sounded militant and I figured there was a story behind her post. Several days later I happened to speak with the “dragon” she slayed. He was devastated.
Speaking Strong isn’t dumping on someone and feeling empowered. It’s also not self-righteous preaching. When people don’t speak up for a while, they often let it out in one below-the-belt attack that leaves them feeling relieved and the recipient either feeling revengeful or devastated. Or both. We’ve all done it.
That’s why it’s important to address the small stuff before it becomes big stuff.
It keeps us from getting preachy. I know the more I clear as I go, the less I need to dump and the less preachy I become.
But there’s a bigger story than that. Clearing as you go means connecting and relating as you go. It means being authentic. It’s a quieter, more graceful empowerment.
And that is an experience worth having.
Read my latest article, Losing my Preachiness.
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