August 18, 2010PowerPhrase: How about instead of being the older sister you be the bigger one too? Sally Forth
In today’s Sally Forth comic, Sally struggles with the fact that despite her warnings of certain failure, her sister’s new relationship with Sally’s nemesis coworker seems to be working. The new couple stays silent about their relationship, which Sally’s husband Ted suggests is due to the likelihood that Sally would respond self-righteously. He suggests,
- How about instead of being the older sister you be the bigger one too?
Good on Ted for inviting Sally to operate at a higher level.
Family members can often take self-righteousness to new perfected arts. I have a particularly tough time with self-righteous communication. What makes self-righteousness communication so challenging is the aggressive way it summarily dismisses any alternative perspectives.
Being the bigger person isn’t just mature- it’s also a big relief. It’s hard work to have to be right all the time. It’s also hard work for others to be declared wrong all the time – or to hold oneself in to avoid accusation. As a result, self-righteousness can isolate.
I love the wisdom from today’s Sally Forth. Whether we’re a parent that needs to let our kids find their own way or an older sister who needs to be a bigger person, everyone benefits when we get down from our pedestal and lose our preachiness.
Read more about the topic here; Losing My Preachiness: An Empowered New Communication
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