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	<title>A PowerPhrase a Week &#187; Ask Meryl</title>
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	<description>By Meryl Runion and SpeakStrong, Inc.</description>
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		<title>Reader question: starting fresh when a negative employee returns from leave</title>
		<link>http://www.speakstrong.com/newsletter/2010/11/03/reader-question-starting-fresh-when-a-negative-employee-returns-from-leave/</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 03 Nov 2010 13:40:58 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Meryl, I have an employee that will be returning to work soon after leave. She does good work but has presented challenges in the past when it comes to getting along with co-workers. She has a spirit of negativity and will bad mouth and gossip and then twist it in her mind as someone else [...]]]></description>
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		<title>What to say when the HOA president is overbearing</title>
		<link>http://www.speakstrong.com/newsletter/2010/10/10/what-to-say-when-the-hoa-president-is-overbearing/</link>
		<comments>http://www.speakstrong.com/newsletter/2010/10/10/what-to-say-when-the-hoa-president-is-overbearing/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Sun, 10 Oct 2010 18:40:39 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>merylrunion</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Dear Meryl: Whenever I see, talk to, or even hear about my HOA president, it either makes me mad and/or makes me roll my eyes. While I know that I will never be friends with him, we do live in the same community and I would like interactions to be cordial. I empathize that being an HOA [...]]]></description>
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		<slash:comments>8</slash:comments>
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		<title>Reader Question: Because I told you so</title>
		<link>http://www.speakstrong.com/newsletter/2010/09/23/reader-question-because-i-told-you-so/</link>
		<comments>http://www.speakstrong.com/newsletter/2010/09/23/reader-question-because-i-told-you-so/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Thu, 23 Sep 2010 13:40:10 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>merylrunion</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.speakstrong.com/newsletter/?p=3490</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Meryl, I was just reading the part of your SpeakStrong book where you ask the reader &#8220;How many of us heard, &#8216;Because I said so!&#8217; as a child?&#8221; That made me start thinking deep thoughts about how serious of a Poison Phrase that is. Obviously it depends on the situation. In general, pronouncements carry a lot [...]]]></description>
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		<slash:comments>5</slash:comments>
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		<title>Reader Question: Do I have to hype my value to succeed?</title>
		<link>http://www.speakstrong.com/newsletter/2010/09/16/reader-question-do-i-have-to-hype-my-value-to-succeed/</link>
		<comments>http://www.speakstrong.com/newsletter/2010/09/16/reader-question-do-i-have-to-hype-my-value-to-succeed/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Thu, 16 Sep 2010 14:44:39 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>merylrunion</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.speakstrong.com/newsletter/?p=3429</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Meryl, I had a meltdown the other day. I&#8217;ve been talking to coaches who are trying to get me to make grandiose claims about what I can do for clients and to package my work in ways I don&#8217;t feel good about. I do great work, and yet I see people who don&#8217;t have half my expertise [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Reader Question: When Families Condemn &#8211; Stop the Toxic Gossip</title>
		<link>http://www.speakstrong.com/newsletter/2010/08/19/reader-question-when-families-condemn-stop-the-toxic-gossip/</link>
		<comments>http://www.speakstrong.com/newsletter/2010/08/19/reader-question-when-families-condemn-stop-the-toxic-gossip/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Thu, 19 Aug 2010 16:58:30 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>merylrunion</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.speakstrong.com/newsletter/?p=3287</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Meryl, My ex-brother-in-law left my sister 8 years ago. She was so angry, she exaggerated every wrong he ever when she complained to the family. I understood her anger, but she made herself out to be such an innocent victim that I found it hard to listen to. It was like his actions justified every [...]]]></description>
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		<slash:comments>7</slash:comments>
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		<title>Reader question about handling office gossip</title>
		<link>http://www.speakstrong.com/newsletter/2010/07/18/reader-question-about-handling-office-gossip/</link>
		<comments>http://www.speakstrong.com/newsletter/2010/07/18/reader-question-about-handling-office-gossip/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Sun, 18 Jul 2010 22:58:30 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>merylrunion</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.speakstrong.com/newsletter/?p=3125</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Reading your article about handling gossip, I cannot see how stating that “anyone found gossiping will be dismissed” would work. How would you prove this? You would need to tape conversations and that would not be honest, so even threatening it gives little credence to the manager’s words. Response: What it did was give the [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Reader question: A Cold Case &#8211; and office whiner</title>
		<link>http://www.speakstrong.com/newsletter/2010/07/13/reader-question-a-cold-case-and-office-whiner/</link>
		<comments>http://www.speakstrong.com/newsletter/2010/07/13/reader-question-a-cold-case-and-office-whiner/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Tue, 13 Jul 2010 22:17:39 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>merylrunion</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.speakstrong.com/newsletter/?p=3099</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[A reader asks: Someone in my office is always cold.  That&#8217;s the focus of her day. I&#8217;d really like to know what she wears at home because the office is always 72-74 degrees . Response: I relate to this question of dealing with anyone who complains rather than doing anything about a problem. I have a friend [...]]]></description>
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		<slash:comments>28</slash:comments>
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		<title>Reader Question: A graceless new manager</title>
		<link>http://www.speakstrong.com/newsletter/2010/07/06/reader-question-a-graceless-new-manager/</link>
		<comments>http://www.speakstrong.com/newsletter/2010/07/06/reader-question-a-graceless-new-manager/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Wed, 07 Jul 2010 03:46:27 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>merylrunion</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.speakstrong.com/newsletter/?p=3029</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Our new boss of less than 30 days has a terrible approach when one of us is needed in her office. Rather than email, set up meeting times in advance, or simply walking over to our desks (which are approximately 10 steps from her office), she will yell for us by name and wait until [...]]]></description>
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		<slash:comments>6</slash:comments>
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		<title>Reader questions how to address ungrateful young subordinate</title>
		<link>http://www.speakstrong.com/newsletter/2010/05/19/reader-questions-how-to-address-ungrateful-young-subordinate/</link>
		<comments>http://www.speakstrong.com/newsletter/2010/05/19/reader-questions-how-to-address-ungrateful-young-subordinate/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Wed, 19 May 2010 15:32:50 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>merylrunion</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.speakstrong.com/newsletter/?p=2563</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Meryl, I saved my secretary’s job, get her time off, and generally look out for her, but have yet to receive a thank-you. I find this hard to deal with. I grew up in a generation by parents who expected you to show respect for those in authority positions. How can I deal with her [...]]]></description>
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		<slash:comments>16</slash:comments>
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		<title>Phrases to deal with moody, buzz-killing coworker</title>
		<link>http://www.speakstrong.com/newsletter/2010/05/04/phrases-to-deal-with-moody-buzz-killing-coworker/</link>
		<comments>http://www.speakstrong.com/newsletter/2010/05/04/phrases-to-deal-with-moody-buzz-killing-coworker/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Tue, 04 May 2010 19:58:22 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>merylrunion</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.speakstrong.com/newsletter/?p=2471</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Meryl, How do I address a moody coworker? Some days she&#8217;s fine, and other days she stops speaking to every one, is short and whines constantly. Response I respond differently based on the individual circumstance. I’d start by expressing concern. Since she is great some days, you can say, You don’t seem like your usual [...]]]></description>
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