May 20, 2010Manipulation describes behavior that takes place before establishing trust.
Sometimes we’ve just got to back off and build trust before making requests and placing demands.
Or reestablish trust. Often the people we love most are the ones we need to regain trust with because we access them on such a deep level that minor offenses build defensive walls.
Too often, that’s when we go in for the result rather than back off and heal the harm our unconscious action may have caused.
For more about manipulation, read Lee Beaumont’s article on trust.
February 4, 2008Tip of the Week: When you find yourself in a hole, stop digging.
Have you ever noticed how people will sometimes hang themselves with their own words? That’s one reason to give people plenty of rope / room. Let them talk long enough and they will often make your case for you.
But on the other end of the discussion, when you’re the one who dug the hole, stop digging. Cut your losses and start a new game.
