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Comment on Poison Phrase ~ Please remit payment to… by merylrunion

merylrunion — Sun, 20 Nov 2011 02:34:58 +0000

Greg, I’m saying that when you have a relationship with a customer, a standardized, impersonal message seems cold. Even if I don’t have a relationship with a vendor, I still prefer language that sounds friendlier. It’s a preference, and nothing that I need to get over.

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Comment on Owning Her Own Life After Incest by merylrunion

merylrunion — Thu, 23 Dec 2010 12:53:26 +0000

Yes Ken – and I’ll take it one step further. As I get older, I find the wounds in my life are what make me whole once I’ve reclaimed my integrity. And to add to your comment, Dave – it IS the survivors and THRIVERS who can stop the cycle – and use this and every experience to deepen and sweeten into wisdom. The self-worth you speak of is inherent. Something about having it betrayed – when we reclaim it, we know how precious it is.

Comment on Owning Her Own Life After Incest by Ken Rhodes

Ken Rhodes — Fri, 17 Dec 2010 02:55:22 +0000

“the betrayal of our self worth”

Dave this statement resonates the most for me. As if normal life didn’t already challenge our self worth enough as it is, this expresses how I feel about it very strongly. I hate thinking of myself as a victim. I can’t control what was doen by someone else, but I work daily tomake sure that waht I can control, my reaction to what was done, is the best that it can be. That I can hold my head up high on that basis, and allow my self worth to shine through in spite of people and circumstances that would try to defeat it.

Comment on Owning Her Own Life After Incest by Dave

Dave — Thu, 16 Dec 2010 23:45:48 +0000

I have found that abuse in any way can have the same results for the victim. The loss of love and the betrayal of our self worth, which is a very high price to pay. I think that the survivors are the ones chosen by God to stop the cycle or break the chain.

I do not take it lightly that incest and sexual assault are easy to deal with, that being said we can conquer our fears and build a new life for ourselves.
The light at the end of the tunnel is the light that comes from within ourselves. That spark is as Heidi says the beginning of the end in being a victim. That spark is God saying we are loved by him and he has not forsaken us in our journey. All we need to do is look up and keep asking God for the strength to overcome.

Comment on Owning Her Own Life After Incest by Ken Rhodes

Ken Rhodes — Tue, 14 Dec 2010 20:54:23 +0000

Although I have not had to endure sexual assault of my own, I have dealt with physical abuse from a step-parent, the aftermath of sexual assault in the distant past of a loved one, and the sexual assault of my own daughter by a boy who still lives in the same neighborhood. I feel for all of the stories here, and I am heartened by the stories of triumph over the inner demons. I still wrestle with some of those daily, though my demons are of a very different sort, and it encourages me to know that there is light to be found at the end of some very dark tunnels.

Comment on My Boss Doesn’t Like Me by merylrunion

merylrunion — Sat, 06 Nov 2010 02:21:11 +0000

Uncertain, have you considered asking for what you want and asking if your assumptions are true? It might be interesting to if your conclusions are true. Something like,
* I work better when I receive positive feedback about what I do well along with the noting of errors. Can you tell me what I do well?
Or,
* I’m trying to figure out your style. You seem very critical of my work and it makes me think you have not respect for me. Am I right to think that, or am I misinterpreting your style?

It could be useful, and it would be some action. Often when people have attention called to their behavior, they back down a bit, even if they don’t acknowledge it.

Comment on My Boss Doesn’t Like Me by merylrunion

merylrunion — Sat, 06 Nov 2010 02:04:41 +0000

Thanks Anita! Very clear recommendations. I will add that it’s smart to stop documenting as soon as you think there may be an issue. That way if things escalate you have a foundation of evidence and don’t need to keep building it.

Comment on Reader question: starting fresh when a negative employee returns from leave by merylrunion

merylrunion — Sat, 06 Nov 2010 02:01:52 +0000

Debbie – it sounds like you have the strength of will to refuse to collaborate – or collude – with that kind of negativity. Knowing what to say is a first step – and committing to actually not get sucked in is an entirely different one. It’s a tough – and as you say, freeing – step.

Comment on What not to say when someone responds “too” literally by merylrunion

merylrunion — Sat, 06 Nov 2010 01:56:39 +0000

Yes, Chase. I think I’m being so clear and anyone would know what I’m really asking. But – if they’re not picking up on my intent, I take responsibility.

I like your PowerPhrase. Thanks!