A co-traveler in my SpeakStrong journey and I were talking about the power that gets unleashed in melt-downs and hissy-fits. She noted it was scary, as if it was power beyond what she knew how to handle or control. It is powerful, and it is beyond control. That's why it's important to get that energy and emotion (emotion = energy in motion) conscious so we can keep an eye on it.
I feel safer around assertive people who aren't holding a river of unspoken emotion back behind a veneer of nice. I feel alive around people who don't sit on emotion. There is so much power in our emotions that it takes a lot of our vitality to hold it back. It just makes sense to work with it instead of against it.