Changing habits can be challenging, but here are three keys that will help.
1. Pick a moniker for yourself. Pick something that sums up who you are and who you are becoming. A dear friend sometimes calls himself Dr. Sunshine. It's a fitting moniker for him. He brings sunshine into every consideration.What is a fitting moniker for you? And how about a moniker for you as a communicator? I'm The Message Maven, The Perspicacious Phraseologist and The Communication Alchemist.
2. Get a motto. Three phrase mottos work well. My SpeakSTRONG motto is to be clear, sincere and effective. It was clear, kind and direct, but it has evolved.
On the other hand, I have another motto that is lighthearted. It's Collabracabra. What's yours?
3. Get a motivating image. My motivating image has been a picture of me putting one foot in front of the other. When I get overwhelmed or fall into an old habit of thinking and speaking, that visual brings me back to my next step. It's like the twelve step one-day-at-a-time image applied to each moment. It brings me back on track every time.
On the other hand, now that I'm past the roughest terrain since my paved road crumbled, I'm finding a more lighthearted image that is connected to Collabradabra. It's more magical - yes, I have a wand - but I'm not performing magic on others. I'm inspiring the magic IN others. OMG - it gives me shivers!
Don't stress yourself about getting the perfect moniker, motto and motivating image right away. Once you apply a less-than-perfect one, you'll naturally develop refinements. You'll go deeper into what your choices represent for you. And even if you're completely at home with your choice, one day you'll wake up and discover you're ready to shift them - either because your circumstances and aspirations change, or because...oh my gosh... you've grown into and beyond the vision you set for yourself.