If you do this before you open your mouth, it can save you a world of grief.
Make sure you're looking at things from the high side.
The high side is the unobstructed view without the burden of your ego, agenda or a need to prove anything. The high side is loyal to the truth, the team and genuine understanding with no need to score points.
Okay, here's a news flash for you. I don't naturally live on the high side all the time. I have an ego that can be sticky at times. Most of the time I know when my ego wants to do the talking. When that happens, I don't fight with my ego, but I don't lead with it either. I do things to elevate my perceptions and get me seeing the high side of life. THEN I have the conversation.
It's tough to get enough serotonin (feel-good neurotransmitters) to stay up in the winter. Doing things to improve health and well-being is particularly important in months like February when we're all pulled below the cloud cover at times. Exercise, fresh air, reading things that inspire you, reflection, all can help you see that the sun is still shining, even when you don't see it. And it's a good idea to bank a little extra, like take a hike before your attitude signals that you need it.
You can't solve a problem at the same level it was created. You need to bump your perception up a notch. So take care of you, and then open your mouth. In fact, I think I'll take a bit of my own medicine right now and take care of me.